Traditional Wedding Pictures - Nse Ikpe Etim and Clifford Sule

Nse Ikpe Etim and Clifford Sule at their traditional wedding

Nse Ikpe-Etim had her traditional wedding with husband, Clifford Sule in her hometown, Ikot Etobon, Akwa Ibom. The two exchanged customary marriage vows in front of family members and guests at the St. Stephen Primary School, where the event held. They were both dressed in native Akwa Ibom traditional regalia, and in my opinion, that staff makes her look like royalty. Even the guy's Aladdin headgear. Nice one :)

You can read more about Nse and Clifford Sule at the following links; Nse on Finding a ManPersonal Journey to Love, Civil Marriage, and her Stepson.









Pictures courtesy of TheNetNG

Would You Wear A Black Wedding Dress?


"There has been a growing interest in black wedding dresses," Tova Marc, a wedding gown designer who specializes in non-traditional colors, tells Shine. "They are tired of the same old white and ivory." Marc also says Lady Gaga's edgy look has had an impact on brides-to-be. Who knew Lady Gaga's fans would translate that into their weddings?

Supposedly, this trend in black gowns started with Vera Wang's runway show in 2011 which paraded 15 black-ish wedding dresses. But, black isn't for everyone, certainly not for me though the designs of some of these dresses below are very lovely. Check out other non traditional brides, here, and Ufuoma Ejenebor's Gray and White gown, here.









Wedding Photos - Mekhi Phifer Marries Reshelet Barnes


I loved Mekhi Phifer as Dr. Gregory Pratt on the NBC show ER, and on many movies he was in. Still don't know why he wasn't getting more roles in movies, I think he's a really good actor. Well, on Easter Sunday he got the role of a lifetime when he married his long-time girlfriend Reshelet Barnes. Both of them wore ivory [see other non-traditional grooms] for their intimate wedding with just 100 guests.









Photos via Jasmine Brand and Mail Online

Will You Write Your Own Wedding Vows?


It is easier when you have a non-denominational wedding, or an independent priest officiating your wedding, otherwise you might just be stuck with the lithurgy, or whatever is in the wedding solemnization catechism for your denomination. I wed in the Anglican church where my dad is a knight, still I managed to change around a few things, for instance I did not vow to obey, and one or two other lines. Luckily the Bishop read from our program rather than the Book of Common Prayer and did not notice. BTW, I'm still vexing that he skipped the "you may kiss the bride" part. Moving on...

I just read about Tuface and Annie Idibia's wedding vows and I was tripping.

TuFace Idibia
Many years ago I was farther than the eyes could see.
Now we are now in that future
When I look into your eyes, I still see
You came into my life and you lit it up
Like the sun, like the moon, like the stars
All the words in the dictionary
All the words in this world can not be enough
To say what my heart feels for you.
But all I can say is baby, my heart is like a stereo right now
And it will beat only for you till death do us part.
I love you baby.

Annie Idibia
My joy! My heart! My friend! My love!
I stand before you today as open as I can ever be, humbled by the light and love in your eyes.
13 years ago, I met the most amazing man on earth! I flew on the wings of that love, uncaring, unheeding! Believing firmly that you are and will always be the wind beneath my wings!
Life happened, oh yes Life happened but through it all my heart beat only for you!
My heartbreak became my greatest joy!
My strength! My life!
Day after day I am more in love with you!
When people ask me what is love! I say Love is right here! This moment! This second! Today! Tomorrow! Love is you! Love is real! Love is my eternity with you Innocent Ujah Idibia!
I give you all of me today knowing that in you and you only has this imperfect girl found perfection!!!
I do 13 yrs ago when I met you, I do 7yrs ago, I do 5yrs ago when we created our daughter! I do through all the blogs and tabloid headlines! And on this day, at this very second I stand in front of the world and I say I do take you as my wedded husband! I love you! I love you so much, so so much!!!

So what do you think about Tuface and Annie's wedding vows, sweet yeah? Who else wrote their own vows, care to share? If you're planning your wedding or it's in the future, are you motivated to write yours?

Real Love Story - Jimi Odukoya Weds Kemi Banjoko


Jimmy Odukoya is the first son of Pastor Taiwo and late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya. He is also an ordained pastor,as well as a rap/musical artiste. He married Oluwakemi Sade Banjoko a few weeks ago in London. They actually met for the first time in 2011, in a parking lot in Lagos, and spoke to Thisday on how their romance progressed, even as he is a pastor;

Was it love at first sight.
Jimmy: Actually no, I talked more to her cousin, Kike, catching up, updating each other. I hardly spoke to her. We were talking of relationships and she said she has been single for four years and she hasn’t seen what she is looking for. I said this is Lagos, this is your first time in a long time, before you know it you will have lots of offers, people will probably offer to chat you up, and her cousin suggested that we exchange contacts since we were both single and I said okay. That was the first day.

Kemi: The next day was my cousin’s introduction and that was when we started talking. He asked my cousin’s permission to talk to me.

Your cousin is male, I presume?
Jimmy: He is male, we went to school together. When I got there I asked if I could talk to her cousin and he is one of my very good friends and I said why is everybody not talking to her. They said he told everyone not to talk to her, so I said let me go and talk to her and we really had a very good conversation and I asked her to marry me jokingly because my sister had just gotten engaged and I found out that my brother in-law, Olumide’s younger brother had just gotten engaged.


Everyone was engaged so I said why don’t we just get engaged. So I said, take your time, I will give you five minutes to think about it and I went downstairs to tell her aunty that I was going to marry her niece jokingly and it’s funny how in reality it ended up being just that way.

When you first saw him what was the impression you had?
Kemi: The first thing that struck me about Jimmy is that he is very kind and I actually told my cousin about it in the car on the way back. Everyone he introduced me to actually said he is kind and it’s like it radiates from him.

What was it that made you want to marry her?
Jimmy: I think we had great conversations. We talked a lot.

Kemi: We talked for hours, day and night for like three days straight. He would call me up like from 8.00pm and we’d talk till 5.00am and we talked about everything and my uncle was like who are you talking to in the middle of the night.

Jimmy: One thing I always looked out in the person I would end up with was not someone who will be a ready-made pastor’s wife, who can rip out the microphone and preach the sermon. That was not my criteria. I wanted somebody who loved God and who has an open mind towards learning, growing in God and growing in life generally. One thing that struck me is that her love for God is real, is genuine, she can adapt to any situation, she is also very flexible.


Were you a pastor in 2011?
Jimmy: Yes, I was.

Kemi: He didn’t tell me at first(general laughter).

Jimmy: Yes, at first I didn’t tell her. But the first time I told her, I actually just said to her: ‘by the way, I am a pastor.’ There was this 30 seconds silence. She was just kind of silent for a while.

Kemi: (Laughing) I was silent. I was thinking of all the things I had told him.

Jimmy: But I’d mentioned it to her by telling her what my mum would always say and the next day we were talking and she just said straight out of the blue, she said she was thinking of what I said the previous day and what my mum always asked my dates and she said: ‘I am going to stop doing what a pastor’s wife won’t do’. We were not official yet, but I liked the way she was thinking and because most of the ladies I had dated in the past were not comfortable having that conversation.
I tell them: ‘listen I am a pastor, there are certain things you can’t wear, there are certain places you can’t go, certain things you can’t say, certain places where you can’t show up.’

You know he is a Pastor and that he is Pastor Taiwo’s son; is there any pressure?
Kemi: I know he is a pastor, a lot of people love him, and they love his family. I think it’s a big role but I see it like two people meeting and falling in love. We are going to get married and we should go with the flow.


How did you propose to her?
Jimmy: I had intended I would go and do the proposal in December. But the first time I met her father and we had this ‘I will marry your daughter conversation’ all he said was ‘my daughter?’ I had flown to London to see her father and all he said was ‘my daughter’ and we had a very good conversation. It was very interesting.

So, I planned to propose in December and I had told my friend, Olumide, who would be my best man. I introduced both of them on Skype and Olumide just told her: ‘look I don’t know what you have done to my friend but he is planning to propose in December.’ I was stunned. I actually did not believe he just told her so I decided to propose in March and so I was actually looking for a way to go get a ring that I had booked online.

It was difficult going because she was always with me. I told her I was going for a meeting in church and when I got there the ring was not actually what it looked like on the internet and I spent another two hours looking for another ring and she kept calling me, asking where I was.

So, I told her I would be home shortly and she was suspecting something and when I got back to the hotel, I walked into the bathroom and she went through my stuff and she didn’t find anything and I am sure she was disappointed and she was eating these jelly sweets and they were in different shapes and one of them was ring shaped and so I said I am about to propose because she was getting kind of upset so I moved closer and took one of the candy and asked her if she would marry me. I was about putting the candy ring on her finger and she said: ‘where is the ring?’ So I went to the mirror in the bathroom and asked her to close her eyes, and when we got to the mirror I asked her to open her eyes and pick the ring and she said she couldn’t find the ring, then I asked her to look down and she looked down and saw the ring so I told her to pick the ring, it’s yours, touch it and she was quite shocked as she picked it because she didn’t expect it.

What do you think your mum would have said about her?
Jimmy: I think my mum would have actually loved her. I am sure she would have actually given her so many nick names like kem-love, kem-darling and all the kem-kem stuffs. My mum has always been interested in knowing who I was dating and there was a time I was dating someone and it seemed to be serious. I was schooling in America then and she was about to fly her from America to London for a day just to see her.
Later on, when I came home for Christmas and my mum saw her, she said she was not the one. My mum was always 100 percent right when it comes to anything that has to do with relationships. But seriously she would have loved her, her attitude, her personality and, sure, she would have been all over her.


What did your father think about her?
Jimmy: He is this kind of person that sits back and watches and he then makes his decision. When I first told him that I have found the one I wanted to marry and that I had bought the ring, he said ‘okay, no problem’. There was a time he didn’t go for ministration or travel anywhere and he asked her to come so he would meet her and they had some serious conversations.
I remembered my first meeting with her father; her dad didn’t even smile with me. The second time he didn’t smile at me. The third time, maybe a half smile, but here she was meeting my dad for the first time and they were eating, laughing and having a nice conversation. It wasn’t fair. My dad really likes her and he said she is the one. If he didn’t support we won’t probably be here by now.

How difficult was it courting without acting inappropriately as a pastor?
Jimmy: One thing I believe is that true love waits. If it’s something you believe is true, then it’s worth waiting for. Besides, you are in a place where people look up to you and you have to direct and lead them the best way you can. That accountability and position that you occupy are what keep you going and God’s grace.